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Hello my loves, I've missed calling you all that. I feel like I haven't wrote to YOU in a little while, even though I have. Christmas isn't far away now, are you all ready for it? Isn't it crazy the madness and stress we put ourselves through for one day and that one day goes by so quickly it becomes a blur in our minds.
I'm listening to Labrinth - Jealous right now. I love this song, it's a great one to belt out if you're feeling a little bit jealous about something. Although I think the song is based on some sort of relationship. But anyway. this song got me a thinking my loves.
It's said that jealousy is a very ugly thing to have or be but us as humans can not help feeling jealousy over things from time to time. Whether it be a relationship that has ended or over inanimate objects that don't matter, we can not help having that feeling of jealousy sometimes. We can however help and control how we cope with those feelings.
I personally feel that if we get jealous over a person, because of how they are with other people you like or don't like, is because we care so much about them. And surely that jealousy is based on a lack of self confidence in ourselves that we are pushing and blaming on that other being. An example of this would be when a friend you love deeply, starts a new friendship with someone else or when an ex partner starts a new relationship. I think that type of jealously stems from feeling as though that new person has something better to offer and by picking out flaws in them somehow makes us feel better. But aren't the flaws we see in other people the flaws and insecurities we see in ourselves? And there is nothing wrong with that, there is nothing wrong with feeling those emotions.
However, don't let jealousy be the reason friendships end. When we feel our insecurities it's very easy to put the walls of defence up and by doing that we're not letting people into our hearts and letting them understand what's going on. By shutting people off and pushing them away we are at risk of losing them forever, which is a great shame because that's letting the jealousy and insecurity (which to me can be the same thing) win. If the relationship means something to you, you need to be honest about your feelings because pushing them away hurts more than being honest.
People care and love each other because each one of us has qualities that are valued and loved. Not everybody can get on, that is just life but we must cherish those relationships we do have, that are strong because they can be hard to find sometimes.
Merry Christmas my loves,
Much love
Beth xxx
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Hello my loves, I've missed calling you all that. I feel like I haven't wrote to YOU in a little while, even though I have. Christmas isn't far away now, are you all ready for it? Isn't it crazy the madness and stress we put ourselves through for one day and that one day goes by so quickly it becomes a blur in our minds.
I'm listening to Labrinth - Jealous right now. I love this song, it's a great one to belt out if you're feeling a little bit jealous about something. Although I think the song is based on some sort of relationship. But anyway. this song got me a thinking my loves.
It's said that jealousy is a very ugly thing to have or be but us as humans can not help feeling jealousy over things from time to time. Whether it be a relationship that has ended or over inanimate objects that don't matter, we can not help having that feeling of jealousy sometimes. We can however help and control how we cope with those feelings.
I personally feel that if we get jealous over a person, because of how they are with other people you like or don't like, is because we care so much about them. And surely that jealousy is based on a lack of self confidence in ourselves that we are pushing and blaming on that other being. An example of this would be when a friend you love deeply, starts a new friendship with someone else or when an ex partner starts a new relationship. I think that type of jealously stems from feeling as though that new person has something better to offer and by picking out flaws in them somehow makes us feel better. But aren't the flaws we see in other people the flaws and insecurities we see in ourselves? And there is nothing wrong with that, there is nothing wrong with feeling those emotions.
However, don't let jealousy be the reason friendships end. When we feel our insecurities it's very easy to put the walls of defence up and by doing that we're not letting people into our hearts and letting them understand what's going on. By shutting people off and pushing them away we are at risk of losing them forever, which is a great shame because that's letting the jealousy and insecurity (which to me can be the same thing) win. If the relationship means something to you, you need to be honest about your feelings because pushing them away hurts more than being honest.
People care and love each other because each one of us has qualities that are valued and loved. Not everybody can get on, that is just life but we must cherish those relationships we do have, that are strong because they can be hard to find sometimes.
Much love
Beth xxx
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When I was younger I used to be a very jealous person but also I was very insecure especially in relationships. I had been cheated on in my first ever long term relationship and it was like I couldn't get past that with anyone new therefore I ended up losing them because of the way I was acting. I think you are right some jealousy is normal and even now I am always comparing myself to others and wishing I had what they had and I guess you just have to be grateful for what we actually have. xox
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We really do, because there are others who are worse off and we should be grateful for what we have and who is in our lives. But feelings of jealousy is totally normal and will always crop up somewhere. Hope your well :D xxx
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